Love is a complex emotion that many find hard to describe. Romantic Love is a combination of elements some psychologists say of Intimacy ,Caring and Attachment.
Ultimately these three elements are what makes someone feel ready to be in a marriage with someone. These three elements of romantic love are the base of what a marriage should have in order for building a life together. If you don't feel intimacy, care and respect and a bond with the other person then I don't believe it could be a strong marriage.
I don't beleive these are the only traits of a long withstanding relationship though either.
I feel a marriage needs something else to stand the test of time. That something else is passion.
Passion or desire does not last for most. It is naturally difficult to keep passion in a marriage , as passion and desire sometimes gets masked by the daily visibility of another person. How can you desire something if it is always there? How can you feel longing for something when you already know you have him or her?
Well, that's it. Passion fades therefore you must create it over and over again.
Imagine having a marriage with Intimacy, Caring, Attachment and Passion. Intimacy-Sharing your feelings,dreams and thoughts. Caring- respecting the other and understanding their differences and individual needs. Attachment- Knowing and committed to being one unit, supporting each other and having that bond feeling. The last but definitely not at all least-Passion- the desire for the other. Every time the fire goes out from the routine of your days, a spark must be ignited, a new flame must be created between the two to keep Passion. This is easiest by a few simple ways: Surprises, Small distances, and seeing the other in a proud way. When you create little surprises or small love actions for the other that keeps you on your toes. When you are apart for a few hours, a day or two even or even if you both feel comfortable with the idea of a night out with the girls or boys, it creates an innocent distance which could create a small desire. The nicest is seeing your love in the limelight, doing something in public of a talent they might have or at a party mingling confidently with others, creates an intriguing desire as you are seeing them in a confidant circumstance.
Being aware of these and being committed to your partner to always have these as a priority will most likely give you a marriage you always wanted. Be true to your self and the one you love. Marry not for the sake of getting married but for how the other person completes you in a healthy way. Marriage is a journey you take together as a couple. Enjoy each others company and live life with passion. Marriage might be hard many days but if taken seriously, (as many unfortunately don't these days) , it can be the most beautiful experience and relationship!
